Modern Communication #HurtBae

Dating in the 21st century is nothing like any other time period. Although the dynamics hasn't changed much, the development and resolution has no clear direction. During the 20th century dating was simpler, you dated and either you got married or not. Affairs, divorce, and money problems in the relationship wasn't as outspoken as they are today. I blame the internet for altering how we communicate ultimately decreasing direct verbal expression, which allows people to release and work through their issues face to face.

Recently a video surfaced of an ex couple asking each other questions to gain perspective and closure to their situation, while being videotaped. Titled #HurtBae the video has gone viral, leading to a stream of ex couples mimicking the first couple. How it works is; each person takes a turn and ask a question pertaining to the relationship and express how they felt at that moment and the other person responds with the truth and their feelings.

I love that hurt bae has modernized direct communication oppose to venting on your timeline with a long paragraph to people who don't care. If both people are being completely honest this idea has the ability to increase relationship stability in the 21st century. Also I commend couples who agree to video tape the intervention because physically exhibiting your real emotions to others takes a lot of courage. You're allowing people to see that video and develop a identity for you without knowing you or who you were at that time. So I applaud you guys for this!
However as 23 year old woman who has dated, I don't understand why you would publicly air your relationship. What's the intent of describing the depth of your emotions and past relationships with anyone? Yes it's bold, but doing so can cause more harm to you than good. Why create more ridicule and judgment to a situation that clearly affected you mentally. Seeking the attention of others will not satisfy the lack of love you're getting from either yourself or your significant other. I agree with the exercise, but not the approach, because this addiction of posting everything on social media, allowing insignificant strangers with incite of who you are creates some form of self doubt. More opinions equal more questions to you. Something's are better left unseen, because now I can bet you that this beautiful woman has been contacted via DM by a plethora of strange men who "are different." If you're seeking help, please remember that the internet is not a psychologist. Remember, just because a massive amount of people comment doesn't make their opinion credible.