Balance: The Key to Your Relationship.

Nearly everyone is interested in relationships. You are either in one, been in one, or want to know how to get in and maintain one. If none are the case, you may genuinely enjoy being alone. Regardless of which one applies to you, you probably want to find a way to relate the complexities of relationships to YOUR relationships. Among all of the ins-and-outs of these partnerships, the most important key is probably moderation and balance. Sounds pretty basic, right? Well, it was equally as basic when you read the title and opened the page. Peep.

Being in a relationship requires one to have patience and never do too much of one thing. Doing too much of one thing can drive your partner crazy at any given moment, hence the cliche that exists that I don't have to type for you to know. With that, you have to be understanding of it and balance things out.

For example, men tend to stay away from women that are overly-clingy. Imagine leaving your phone in your room while you're in the shower. You come back, and you see "26 missed calls", all of which is under the name "Bae". All of a sudden you're thinking, "Somebody die?" Meanwhile, you miss me after just seeing me 20 minutes ago. I appreciate the love, boo, but come on.

In contrast, however, no man wants a woman that is too stand off-ish and dismissive. If he feels as if he has to schedule an appointment to get your attention, he's probably closer to cheating than having low ammo with five stars on Grand Theft Auto. Get it together.

Another example can be used on the women's side of things--although the former example was applicable to both sides. Many (not all) women like for a man to exude power, confidence, dominance, and control of situations, as society says that a man should do just that. This is a showing of why women often say, "I want a man that can put me in my place!" As that may be a turn on for them, I'm sure the ladies have no interest in being beaten and slammed through tables like professional wrestlers. Even the professional women wrestlers don't have to endure that. On the flip side, however, most women do not want a man that is passive, submissive, and soft. That is the ultimate turn off for many.

That brings me to my final point, each person in a relationship has an equal responsibility within it. These responsibilities may vary based on peoples' standards on how a relationship should be. Nonetheless, a relationship is a two-way partnership that calls for both participants to put forth the same effort. There must be....uhhh....balance. One participant in a relationship cannot be too domineering over the other. If so, the other will feel useless and of no significance. With balance, each party can make one another feel more worthy and appreciated. Both people should feel as if they have a valid role in a stable relationship. Making people feel important IS important.

All in all, despite the difference in context of the word "balance" in the last paragraph, balance is balance, and can be the determining factor on whether or not your relationship succeeds or fails. Learn your partner and how to please them. Even then, don't be overbearing with that either. Do so in moderation. You don't want to set the bar so high that you have NO room to be imperfect. The expectations you have raised can come back to haunt you. See? Balance is universally applicable. If you knew that already, then why weren't you putting it into action? (If you were, #saloot.)

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--@CjayTheGreat

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