Women Raise Your Standards!
Dating at
the age of 21 can be extremely hard, especially for women. Women are often
criticizes for how they should present themselves (dress, act, maintenance),
women are generally more concerned about marriage and children, and women are
programmed to have the "princess" mentally. Meaning that one day our
dream guy will whisk us away to a beautiful castle and we will live happily
ever after. They leave out parts like, people are normal with their own problems,
you have to earn your castle, and that there are 7 billion people in the world.
So the question is how do we know if we've found a good catch?
Let's
start by saying, no one should settle for something or someone whom you do not
want. Yes, relationships takes compromise, but compromise does not mean lower
your standards. Compromise is simply bending them, for example; if one of your
standards is guys with luxury cars; a decent compromise would be talking to a guy
who drives a nice 2014 Toyota Camry. You don't know what the guy has or is
planning for his life so if he has a decent economy car that doesn't describe
the essence of his character. Besides you would rather someone with a simple
lifestyle that they can afford over someone with an expensive lifestyle that
they can't keep up with. However you wouldn't talk to a guy with a beat up 2003
Ford Focus, because this is completely left field from your standard. This may
be an example of a superficial standard, but at least it’s a standard. Material
items say a lot about a person's character such as; money management,
priorities, style, and often goals. These are all characteristics that will
help you find a good catch who meets the standards you create, which ranges
from person to person. Meaning for example; a person who aspires to be a
mechanic might like their significant other to drive a 2003 Ford Focus.
At the
age of 21 the average woman is in school, working or both. If you're 21 with a
child then what you're looking for in a guy may not match up to the 21 year old
without children. Those with children
should always put their children priorities and needs before their own, and
your significant other should also. Your companion should be fully aware of you
having a child, because if they’re long term than this ultimately affects the
relationship. So as a standard you should consider how they are with children. For
those of you without children, some good standards should include; reliable
income, long-term goals, transportation, spirituality, hygiene.
Income:
Whether your significant other has job or not is a factor,
but should not be the only relevancy to your standards. Is their income reliable? Are they in a job or a career? You have to know where
this person mindset is. I wouldn't want my significant others career to be a fry cook at McDonald's, if my career is in corporate America. Ultimately the “bread
maker” (the greater income) is usually the head of the relationship, unless
your incomes are almost identical. You have to pick your position. More money more power!
Goals:
Everyone needs goals, or you’re just a lost person in my
perspective. If you’re not working towards something, what are you really
doing? Goals can be anything, just make sure you have them and are driven
towards them. People without goals are just alive to work, pay bills, and die.
It’s okay if you haven’t discovered your goals yet, you have time, but in that
case I don’t recommend you looking for a significant other either. That’s too
much confusion.
Spirituality:
This may be the number one standard for most people.
Spirituality sets the foundation of the household. This doesn’t mean that you
have to assign your relationship to a specific religion or that you have to
date someone of the same religion. This standard is simply saying that you guys
have come to an agreement of values and morals inside of your relationship and
home. Even if that means you have none.
Hygiene
This is significant because a person’s hygiene may seem
small now, but long term it can develop into a serious issue. For instance, say
you guys move in together how the home is kept will matter in the long run for to
the both of you. I couldn’t be someone who doesn’t share kitchen
responsibilities with me.
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