Let's Talk Sex

Sex, is the most natural form of intimacy that all species crave. We're created to procreate, so of course it's natural for us to want sex. However we still question the time frame in which we should have sex with our person of interest. Often fearing that premature sex will have long terms effective on the relationship, such as; developing feelings of entrust, boredom, dislike, and rejection. 

When you have sex with someone you like, you eventually wonder if you're the only partner, where is it going, how long will these last, or family growths related events.  Un-trusting the person you like, without having reasons to do so is doubt that you created. Branching off in search to fill an unintentional void that has been placed is a form of unsatisfactory, which is if you're searching. Simply beginning to dislike a person after the lust depletes leads to mix signals because you thought the lust was more than lust.  Rejection, ouch! No one enjoys being rejected. Even those who seem to care less about rejection don't enjoy being rejected by someone they do like. So whether you did or not you initially think about sex and its potential. 

So how do you know when to have sex with someone?

Steve Harvey suggested in his number 1 selling book "Think like a Man" that women wait 90 days. Comparing yourself to a job, and when you think of it that way this shows you how valuable you’re "Bae" views you. Would they make it pass their first 90 days for a job of his dreams? Now you are the dream and you should always place yourself there. I agree with this analogy, because it adds to self confidence, making you feel like you can do anything. However I see the subject as more of a strategic move in order to get the person I want. "Oh my we really click, Dag I hope he realizes this, but what if he doesn't? Ok ok I'll wait until I know he knows there's a bond between us." Yes, maybe this person isn't what I think, but I rather not go in completely blind. Sex alters the dynamics of the relationship, even if only in small amounts. One person could crave it more than the other person, which naturally will create problems. 

So after juggling several ideas on when to have sex with someone you like, I say there's no time limit. Be intimate once you both have established the terms of the relationship that way if something doesn't go as planned, the relationship will be easier to move pass. I believe this decreases nasty breakups